Showing posts with label wedding. Show all posts
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Thursday, August 25, 2011

AWWWGUST ANXIETIES AND OUR MARTHA STEWART MOMENT


10 DAYS!!!! 10 DAYS!!!!
Sweet respite in August came in and out too quickly, like a brilliant sleight-of-hand, or a storm’s eye. We’re less than TWO WEEKS away, and each and every part of our coffee-inspired wedding is reaching their strenuous, pressure-cooker culmination!  Imagine, hard planning for a full year, and still we can’t avoid being high-strung or being super-anxious/antsy about the lot of things – their final designs, final schedules, last-minute purchases, last-minute communications, instructions, payments and people, in general!!
Oh, please behave, world. Behave, and be calm.
But August had its share of personal triumphs and little glories that make us feel warm with pride, and, of course, with round-the-clock giddiness and excitement!  First off, the staggered remodeling of our flat further subsided now that we’ve been trying to channel all our resources and time these last days towards the wedding. But even so, we haven’t been remiss in planning and discussing with our contractor the resumption (and, hopefully, completion) of renovation works in September. :-) It actually looks very promising now, even when in its fairly bare and still coat-less form.  What’s nicer is that Kat’s Dad had volunteered to have our bed-frames done at his hometown in Quezon province – where wood is more abundant/cheaper, and the grain is more exotic.  This is something we’ve both been very grateful of.  Here in Q.C., I also found me some suppliers of mahogany, molave, and teak planks; and I just drool over the possibilities for using them as accents or what have you. 


Our MARVELOUS INVITES also came out in August – sealed and delivered – to great cheer and applause from our families, friends, officemates, extensions, and on-lookers alike.  Suffice to say, the Invitations were absolutely GORGEOUS, and its melding of vintage and coffee imagery mesmerized and smoldered. :-) I was allowed to customize the text, so it didn’t read bland at all.  It was of course more pleasing and delightful to see our ninongs, ninangs, and friends relay to us their very uplifting messages and affirmative descriptions of our extra-sized cards – possibly the largest one they’ve had or seen this year.  And in all likelihood the most narcissistic, hehe!  Our allies in PAPERFLAIR outdid themselves this time – and, for that, we thank you!!




Although most of our past weeks had been committed to delivering our invites to our guests scattered all over Manila / Mindanao / USA, we had our series of productive meetings with a few other vendors over the past 2-3 weeks of August to finally punctuate our pretty arrangements: with Rommell our florist/stylist, with a doting young couple from FrameUp, with Maui from Josiahs, and of course, our fittings/re-fittings with Jote of Sarto (mine) and Camille (Kat’s).   


Of course, being able to juggle so many critical, final schedules this August has been a terrible test of patience, grace, and fortitude.  And the stress builds up in a manner I don’t quite fully understand as much as the next guy; but, they have caught my partner Kat unaware more than a few times – who, on a whim, transforms into my whirlwind, tornado and earthquake.  :-P


with Maui of Josiah's
But I love her.

Another reason, though, for remembering this month is that I was finally able to pull off a pet project of mine I initially conceived back in May.  It was really a simple, benign interest at the start – something which Kat at times dismissed as but unnecessary logistics!  But over time – owing to my amateur fondness for wood works and wood grains, etc – not even my lackadaisical attitude towards petty things could underwhelm my resolve to complete this exclusive DIY project for the wedding. Kat calls it our Choc-Board, I call it our Martha Stewart Moment.
See how it went :-D
It started out this past summer, with a standard 3’x5’ plywood board I found sprawled at the back of our house.  
 I had one of the neighborhood carpenters first install a wooden frame roughly 1” wide across all sides.
Next. Bought a couple of soft paintbrushes, sandpaper in different grits, and clean cloth rags from Handyman Home Center.  

I sanded the bastard initially with some coarse sandpaper (about 120 grit), then smoothed it out using paper with 280 grit.  Gently run your fingers across the edges to check for rough patches, but be wary of splinters all the time.  Wipe all the dust and imperfections with the rags as if your life depended on it.  You’ll need the board well-sanded – more particularly if the wood had any pre-existing varnish or coating – for the stain and primer to work its magic.

Wood stains are tricky, since you can easily overpower the natural tint of your wood if you apply too much.  I suggest sampling the stain on some extra piece of wood so you can come up with your desired color and coat.  As much as I would’ve wanted to use Oak, I settled for American Walnut to give that sort of mahogany-esque bark to your grain. 

If you’re using wood stain, be careful with excess spillage and inadvertent splashes that tend to mark other parts of your wood project (not to mention on your hands).  So protect these other parts through whatever cover, tape or glove.  You can use a brush or a rag to apply your stains in the fashion you want – i.e., a “haspy” look.
After having applied the wood stain, you can easily apply another coat within the next 30min-1hour depending on the intensity of the tint you had in mind.  I only applied one coat, after witnessing that multiple coats on my dummy/sample tend to convey a much more robust burnt sienna.  The oil-based stain also varies in impact based on the default grain or surface color of the wood.
Next.  Priming the board was a pretty straightforward exercise.  I used a paintbrush instead of a roller in order to hit those difficult areas under/beneath the frame. Just remember to apply some masking or painter’s tape over the frame.  If you mistakenly put some base coating on the frame, you’d need to sand these parts down again a bit and re-stain if the applied stain loses its evenness. 
 


 I let the primed-wood dry over the week.
If the wood stain didn’t wake up the lumberjack in you, creating your very own Chalkboard paint might do one better.  You’ll need a small pint of your preferred enamel paint, some tile grout (preferably, unsanded), paint brushes, a mixer, rags and a roller. 

While its more acceptable using flat latex paint on your board, I used a satin Carolina Pine Green coat for a slightly glossier finish.  The color was something I had Ace Hardware create for me – only, I had them add an extra squirt of black paint to come up with a darker pine finish.  Meanwhile, tips over the Internet are fairly unanimous as regards the ratio/proportion of the mixture: in my case, I used one (1) full cup of paint, and two (2) tbsps of grout.  Unfortunately, no store or construction supply company in my area seemed to carry unsanded grout; so I settled for sanded grout leftover from our house’s recent renovation.
I poured the mix into a small container, and stirred and stirred with tender love and affection.  I noticed that even after vigorous mixing, the green paint was still “lumpy and soupy” like breakfast cereal that had already turned over.  That’s just the sanded grout making its presence felt.  I imagine the consistency of the paint would be even thicker, tangier, and harder to stir had I been using unsanded grout.
Applying the paint on the board was a bit more demanding than the prime coat. The grout/paint mix thickens quickly if left to dry or aerated. Hence, I had to be more efficient in using it on the wood surface.  Without hesitation, I asked assistance from Jhe, our very proactive househelp, to work with me in parallel.  She used a roller, whereas I stuck to my trusty paintbrush, as we dabbed the special coat in thorough, up-and-down brushstrokes (always paint along - not against - the orientation of the grain).  
In less than 30 minutes, we were able to paint our neat mixture over the entire plywood board using one thick coat of the paint.  However, I had to be extra vigilant in inspecting the painted wood surface for noticeable unevenness and residue from un-dissolved grout.  Grout does that to your life!
About 72 hrs later, with the grout-paint fully dried up, I removed all the painter’s tape, and then proceeded to use very, very fine grit sandpaper on the painted board to remove annoying bumps and miniscule lumps that formed on the surface. I had to redo this several times actually, since its like peeling off skin and trying to avoid peeling anything more than that.  Used a dry rag to delicately wipe away and minimize any cosmetic damage caused by the additional sanding.   
Afterwards, I had the same carpenter add two additional 1” wood strips to “intersect” with the original one. I stained the same parts.
For the chalk or choc-board to happen, the last step is to prime our baby with chalk.  Ever clairvoyant, Kat and I purchased last month a few chalk pieces from the bookstore, exactly with this end in mind. To prime the board, I rubbed the chalk’s lateral side all over the board’s surface.   I was so surprised to see chalk dust fall off like snow as I did this – that I had to rest the plywood down on the floor.
After having rubbed chalk all over the messed-up board surface, I used a damp cloth to wipe everything clean – or, semi-clean, at the very least.
And Voila!!  I now have a plus-sized, framed chalkboard. A cozy, home- and self-styled DIY additive perfect for interiors, coffee shops, and, yes, weddings! The best part is that this whole process can be replicated on other surfaces, furniture, and other objects.

Thanks to the worldwideweb (and Mrs. Stewart) for the tips and for convincing us to pursue our DIY outlets. :-) A truly great way of personalizing and investing in your own wedding celebration

   

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

ONE MONTH TO GO (or, how we survived and loved the Marathon!)


ONE MONTH TO GO!

Dear JULY, we survived you: you and a fistful of bothersome, overlong weeks!!!!!!! You and your indissoluble deadlines and punchlines! :-D You, and your excesses and maddening circus!!  A bloated parliament of events, flaws and oddities!

Dear AUGUST, we’re so happy to have you, like the comforts of waking to sweet bed and breakfast after a rough, rainy evening…or the insulated view of people and their imperfect, random cadence from across a café and its Tony Bennett music…the serenity of a cedar log home impressed against the graying luster of the city…or the inspiring scent of roasted coffee and hazelnut overturning the bland/tussles of everyotherday…

Dear SEPTEMBER, you’re but several more cash withdrawals, headaches, and stories away.  But we’re EMBRACING this 31-day preparation and enjoying every bit of falling hair and spare change – wherever they may fall. :)

Clouds in our coffee, alright.  But our clichés and verses are happier and lovelier, with or without the extra whipped cream.

Sincerely yours,
Gab & Kat [aka ChocFrappe],3 Aug '11

PS: A flurry of rendezvous and events with friends and fam’ly got us through the Fates and Mercies of July; happily, I should add. We love them all ! :)

Stopover at the only Starbucks branch w/ a drive-thru (Fort)
  
He, who shall utter those special words: You may now KISS the bride.
Gabby w/ his ultimate placebo: Alamid or Civet Coffee (High Street)

Alamid coffee with Rochelle and fiancee

Pasta-riffic night with Gab's doting "sisters" and partners (FortStrip)

Early morning frappe @ Greenhills, before a visit to the Church
After a grueling gown fit, a Sicilian treat with my lovely entourage!

Monday, July 4, 2011

OUR JUNE JOYRIDE

Wow, two months nalang. That’s all we’ve had to tell ourselves as we look back at the overwhelming sort of voraciousness that defined our busiest June yet (if not, ever!). It explains why, despite our most earnest intentions, we haven’t followed up our Pre-Nup teaser with a far more extravagant, if somewhat self-important, entry. It explains why, everyday, we are seeking medication for the occasional loss of memory, muscle fatigue, and the gradual obliteration of our bank savings. It explains why a full year of planning has already gone by without us even taking notice in its entirety!

60 days nalang, and, ayun. Joy. An absolute and fittingly comforting joy

As our families, friends and followers are undeniably our closest witnesses, the demise of June marks a little over 8 weeks before the Wedding. And with the obvious toll and growing feeling of anticipation this last couple of months, Gab and I still wonder: how do our last 8 weeks as bachelor and bachelorette play out? What are our remaining priorities? Will we have any last-week alterations, choices and changes? Will we punctuate our planning on a bang or on a whimper? Our excitement at the moment is equaled only by our anxiety; a kind of natural anxiety that comes with having accomplished and planned about so many details, and, having done so, expecting only the finest, truest and happiest returns. (Is it asking too much??) All the thankless days and nights we’ve spent wracking our brains, scrutinizing our to-do-lists, reshuffling our clutter and mess, and probing the shallow depths of our wallets hoping we’ve accomplished everything and not having left anything out– it’s a godsend that we’ve managed to find our equilibrium in each other amid lovely chaos. :)

But June was such a JOYRIDE. I’m mighty proud to claim just how effective and productive we were since our last and only June entry. I’m enumerating TEN accomplishments here in order to keep everyone abreast and to tag along kindred spirits in the swirling, heavenly caffeine of our Choc-Frappe Wedding story

1. June definitely graced us with our proverbial 15-minutes-of-fame. Our pre-nup pictorial within the historic Walls of Intramuros and inside a most rustic Starbucks outlet was an inspired, appropriate and beautiful experience. We had anticipated gorgeous results, especially with our choice lensman Rupert Ramos of NICEPRINT (he, of Ogie-Regine and other celebrity nuptials’ fame) taking over – but even the resulting pictures surpassed our expectations! In a span of under 4 hours, we managed to generate over 500 pictures using 4 different sets of clothing, spread across 4 different venues – drawing oohs and aahhs from us and onlookers at every occasion. Our shoot wouldn’t have been as memorable without having been granted by Starbucks Philippines the clearance and opportunity to use their unmistakable, classic interiors. Last but certainly not least, I also have to thank without end my ever-fabulous, H&M stylist Cherry Pacheco for fleshing out the vintage and Hollywood-ready glamour in me, and for having Gab and I look fresh throughout the prenup activity even under the cruel, cruel noontime sun and irritation from tall wild grass. Ms. Cherry, we hope to see you again soon! Master Rupert and the generous people of Niceprint, see you in September!

Engagement Redux @ the ooolest Starbucks outlet in Manila
Ol' country charm always works

Celebrity moment: Paparazzi right behind our trail :)

Chocfrappe with the NicePrint Ladies
At Starbucks, with our idol Rupert (in green) -- see you in September!
"Love & marriage..love & marriage.."

2. Last June 4- Gab & I attended our whole-day Pre Cana Seminar at Sanctuario de San Jose. We felt it was a much much more practical alternative to the popular but pricey Discovery Weekend paraded often by other wedding vendors. A “teacher-student” type classroom lecture, it was the first we’ve ever attended as an engaged couple. It was a warm feeling to see other couples – young and young-ish alike – be provided an avenue where we could be informed of, and openly discuss and be challenged by the rigors of married life. And who else better to expound on the up-and-down realities of marriage than our speakers/moderators Tito Jun and Tita Gina whose 30-year experience became a fountain of knowledge, insight, wisdom and humor? Their vignettes permeated with patience, graciousness and responsibility – the kind of motivating stories Gab and I would want to draft ourselves in the next chapters of life.
 
Refined tastes converge: with Jonathan of Sarto
3. 2nd Saturday of June was FULL. Finally met with Gab’s ever-articulate and jolly tailor Jonathan Te (or Jote) of SARTO MANILA to decide on the fabric, design, and color of Gab’s tux. We all hit it off great, exchanging several laughs and insights in the process. Simply put, I can’t wait to see my groom wearing his bespoke tux while waiting for me at the altar; I’m sure he’ll look nothing short of ravishing and even more gentlemanly. My Sarto man, as it were. After our meeting with Jote, we RUSHED to JOSIAH’S CATERING for one final selection of dinner menu (food tasting), and to discuss with Josiah’s Maui our final table floral arrangement / other creative elements. The food tasting as usual, delighted our stomachs and taste buds – we even got to add an appetizing Spanish dish for the guests to savor! Dear God, we’re thankful for so many things – but we just have to underscore the absolute win of free multi-course food tastes! :)

With the zany Purchasers of Digitel
4. After extended bouts of heavy preparation and restlessness, Gab and I, together with the Purchasing group of Digitel, finally took some well-earned time off and enjoyed a one-day trek to the rocky but placid beach of Punta Malabrigo in Lobo, Batangas. We tagged along young Cyril as he loves nature trips. It was a very tiring/long and unpredictable day trip – but the shore and calm seas, the grilled food, the company of friends, and the well-spent recharge, were all worth it. We stopped by Starbucks SLEX with my boss and a few colleagues on the way home.
SLEX frappes with my Boss (cap), and my partner
two souls strolling along a shore strewn with a million pebbles @ Malabrigo

5. We concede that we always look forward to each and every public Holiday – especially considering the minute number of weekends left before D-Day. But as much as we want to rest on precious holidays, any proactive couple like us would use them to make progress on a host of details and commitments. On Rizal’s 150th, for instance, Gab & I drove around Ortigas and Quezon City for our first ocular and attempt at  the BRIDAL REGISTRY. Our visit to the bridal register elicited opposing emotions: the exuberant rush of excitement over selecting some very neat items for our condo, and a distinct feeling of restraint for needing to be very prudent and mindful of our guests who’d be competing over a limited number of gift choices. It’s not merely a free-of-charge window shopping coupon that we ladies dream about every time!! Going through the potential gift items, in fact, Gab and I faced a constant battle of “want” vs “need,” “what’s affordable” vs “what’s impractical,” and “what can fit our place,” vs “what can’t.” This July, we’re already scheduled to choose our items so we only hope our beloved guests would agree to our exceptions and decisions! We even sought my Mommy’s advise in choosing the items :)
Licensed to Wed. :)

6. Finally – got our Marriage License! Since Gab & I are both unavailable during weekdays, I had to ask my mom to pick it up at Quezon City Cityhall. Very fortunately, she got it without any hitch and needless drama. Government efficiency was something we did not expect! Haha! Thank you Lord!!! :)

7. Our earlier due diligence for the Church has did us a good turn as we’ve managed to accomplish most of the SSJ’s requirements way ahead of schedule! A few more things to work on though, which includes the wedding banns and canonical interview. We’re also planning on reeling in our favored priest based in QC for an appointment and formal encounter. Bless us this chance, father!

8. Yey! After a few weeks of indecisiveness, we’ve finally booked our florist slash stylist! 15-58 FLOWERS & STYLES is a well-known and sought-after florist and event stylist that boasts an excellent affiliation and history with Fernwood Gardens. The moment we went over their elegant floral designs and proposals together with proprietor Rommel one time at Coffee Bean, we instantly fell in love with them! We already discussed and finalized with 15-58 the subtle, classy garden look we wanted for the Church, for the reception, for the entourage, and my bouquet of course. Rommel’s group has such an intimate feel for Fernwood – from every parcel of land, vine and foliage – that it will surely accentuate its earth, luster and magic. 

are YOU invited?
9. The last weekend of June elevated our level of excitement as we finally met with PAPER FLAIR in Ortigas to trigger the process of customizing our wedding invitations. First order of business was to submit several selected pictures to add personality to the invites. But since we really wanted our ChocFrappe theme to stand out, we had to upgrade and enlist the graphic design prowess of affiliated Adworks. The best part of which, my fiancé, my ever-capable writer, will be providing prose and other texts.

10. As if we needed another truckload of monetary and time commitments in our hectic schedules, our entire wedding planning/doing in June had been counter-balanced by heavier responsibilities and decision-making as regards our very own condominium unit. While I’ve been spreading myself thin across different wedding details, Gab has been doing his part being super proactive ensuring the livability, value and aesthetics of our modest first residence. :-) Apart from weekly visits to the site to inspect progress and discuss any design or cost revisions with our contractor, majority of our condo-related activities went into canvassing goods and ready-made works at Wilcon and Home Depot, and pouring in hard-earned money on bathwares, wood tiles and wood variants, accents and other furnishings. Gab’s also out of his wits trying to find a perfect balance between imported, top-of-the-line wood floorings and pretty albeit cheaper alternatives. (i.e., vinyl). Still, we’re doubly happy that our “contemporary café and country” motif for the condo is literally taking shape, color, and within our budget :)
  
Gab's quirky love for louver
non-expandable WOOD TILES!

fyi, I helped handpick these gorgeous wood vinyls :)
our first lavatory :) [not included, rustic washbasin]

Our JOYRIDE is blazing on at full speed, taking away every breath and peso imaginable! And because Gabby remains adamant about his DIY items despite needing to cram these into his furious wedding, work and condo schedules, we have to labor twice or thrice as hard to achieve our targets and deadlines before August arrives. And August, ladies and gentlemen, is when we de-stress. Or intend to, at the very least, stress and fuss less over the many details that tend to drive each and every couple crazy days before their D-day!

Will Gabby ever pull it off?? :)
Oh and my Dad arrived three weeks ago hence the traditional meeting/ dinner of our families will be move earlier than scheduled. :) Can anyone say, “Meet the Fockers?”

The 2-month countdown is already on, and my office-mates, friends and family have already been doing the counting ahead of us. So we use their cute reminders as motivation to push us forward with a smile, even as the mounting pressure of a million plans and promises weighs us down.  So thank you June – you were a helluva ride! We enjoyed the cool gust of sea and wind on an otherwise tepid solstice, the sweet cups of coffee that got us through merciless days and nights, and the community of old and new friends alike, who’ve inspired and continue to inspire us to dream and live ON for another day.
Post-prenup shoot nightcap and Tito's birthday buffet @ 7 CORNERS! :)